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20050411

Letter To Daoli.

You had finally pissed me to the end of my wits. You think that being in our 'so called' gang gave you extra priviledge to say stuff that are really, really stupid and retarded.

Look, what happened to the old Daoli in primary school? You might be a nerd then, but at least you were dilligent, calm and thinner. Don't think that we accepted you as a close friend then was out of us liking you, we just took pity that you had a rather strict family and no one would talk to you. But after awhile, we thought we all were pretty cool.

Anyway, Dedric just told me you've always been like that. And earlier you were just putting an act to make us like you. So, you've always been so conceited, over-sensitive and oblivious? I guess so. Do unto others what they do unto you. So it's a fake mask la.

But look, you've changed so much, none of us know you anymore. You're like a charging bull you know? Doing things whenever you liked. Rugby was your passion, study was your passion(maybe your Dad forced you to take it), and you threw it all away to what - accomodate us? We, or at least I, don't wanna see you turn out as someone to suit us. You have your own distinct characters, and you're evolving so much to upgrade your closeness with us? I think we've asked for little compromise from you when we befriended you.

I'm still damn shocked you changed so much. Marco and I had noticed how you've put on so much weight pass the months. Frankly - to me - it's disgusting, you're becoming totally like someone we never knew. You weren't this fat, and you looked more charitable and kind last time. Now, you give abit more 'jian' expression.

And Marco was honest enough to insitgate you infront of your face on how much you've changed. But I was hoping you would see that whenever I kept quiet or when we apologised to you, even though it's not entirely his fault.. but you were just to caught up getting back the apology that you don't see below the surface of the words 'we're sorry.' We wanted you to change whenever we say that, but you saw nothing to it. And when Marco apologised to you (no matter how sarcastic he might sound - cause he didn't mean it to sound sarcastic), don't just give a 'Humph!', you can't see yourself wrong and pretend like we SUPER DUPERBLY owe you an apology.

I've realised that you can make fun of us (especially me for that matter), and I would tolerate what you say, cause we are friends and joking is no big deal, but you went overboard alot of times and I kept quiet, and you couldn't see I was angry. But when we make fun of you, you would cover your face and be angry. Are you expecting us to let you have all the pleasure from this friendship whilst we cannot make fun of you. You might not know, but by joking about each other, it shows that we're closer... and you just get angry.. show how 'close' you really are to us.

And you only organise things when you can make it, I mean last time Wei Min came himself cause you did not inform him that the study session was cancelled as the organiser.

And stop using words Marco use - like chu pai, you win, yeh yeh - I mean you can use lah, but you use it so much and distort the mild meaning at the start that now those words are your signature words, and no longer Marco's. And you almost all fat girls call chu pai.. can you go please see a mirror? It's like you also quite look like one, at least if they're chu pai, they might have very good characters right? And you now once according to Marco a girl walked past you, and she used a file to cover her face. What does it say about you?

I've also noticed how you would talk about things like this:

"I don't why, I'm fat but I'm still quite fit."

Or when I say I woke up at 7 you would:

"I wake up at THREE ok, earlier than you lor,"

And the worse thing is you do it all the time. It is super irritating. Are you trying to put yourself higher than us so we would look at you with higher regard? And forever keep you as a friend? I personally at this point of time, would regard Bertrand's, or Konrad's, or Wilson's friendship at higher place than yours.

Shan Hui the othert ime helped you so much for your maths, hoping you would feel better after quarelling with Marco, but you just used Sh's help as free labour, and wasn't even grateful. And in the end, walked out of the place. Can't you just say what you want to say? And stop playing mind games with us.

I've actually tolerated you many many times since the beginning of this year, but never said anything to you.. cause it would be hurting. But you're just TOO much after last night's study. I was hoping you would see your bad points yourself and change, but seems like you just can't.. liking to put yourself in a high accord so here I am to tell you. And all this might be hurting, but it's hoping you would change for the better in the future.

I know, I have my own flaws, jy, marco, sh, edwin, kevin chen, we all have our own flaws, but we each compromise to it and be honest about it. But you never seem to acknowledge yours, and always brush it under the carpet. Please note these are constructive comments, and we hope you would change for the better.

I know you have a strict family background. But for the last time, that is not a pass for you to abuse our friendship and sympathy. Signed, US.

SY wrote at 4:08 pm